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Incongruent Lines

“Being nice to people whom you dislike or despise is not the act of one who is fake, but merely the act of one who has grown up.”
― Taylor E. Bennet

One thing I learned this week is to live by my name. Actually, Nice is more of my nickname, but I've grown to be called like this since i was a kid. I didn't know that this name will be strongly correlated with who i am as a person. Being an only child, i used to think that being independent is good - i usually tell myself that i could survive in life with only a few friends, and i do not have to be nice to everybody 'coz i can't please everyone - that i need not hide if i have strong repugnance towards somebody, what you see is what you get.

Life is not like that though - we need to learn the art of congeniality - seriously. And with my job, having a larger klout circumference is a necessity. Not that i must be nice only just because i need a wider circle of friends, but because at the end of the day - we will be measured according to how we were able to inspire others to be good despite of the circumstances. Starting today, i will try to be nice to everyone. That's why my name is Nice!

 

Affliction is Gossip's Aftermath

Affliction is a good man's shining time

Affliction is a time of great distress, misery, suffering, and pain. All of us, at one point in time have experienced such a trying moment in our life. The question is, how do we respond to this challenge? How do we react, especially if we are threatened with such pain?

One common response would be, of course to protect ourselves from it at all costs, and sometimes doing so can also inflict pain to others (physical or emotional) as well.

The workplace is a setting where gossip is high. One thing i dont like about it, is that when passed, its nature becomes fabricated and exaggeration takes place once it reaches the final recipient. One thing bad about gossip is that if the recipient is not objective enough in interpreting such information, then relationships break and integrity of one person is tainted as an aftermath.

I have been a victim of this destructive gossip. It caused me great agony and pain because what people knew was not legit, but came from false assumptions and misnomers from people who really don't know me, at least.

To be resilient against its negative effect, one must learn how to be objective. Well, it takes a great deal of maturity and practice to be objective especially in the corporate world where dog its dog. He must believe only on information based on facts and not on approximated assumptions, or go to the person directly and validate the pressing issue.We must learn how to give the benefit of the doubt - giving a person a chance to explain himself or show evidences of truth. When we display such actions, affliction is pacified.

My take on rumor mongers, not that my hands are clean on this (but trying my best in avoiding such actions), avoid passing on gossip. Veer away from people who talk trash against other people.

Gossip is gossip unless supported by facts and evidences.

 
 
 
 


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